Family Law Tools & Links

Confidential Family Law Questionnaire
Uniform Support Declaration

How to share the news of your separation or divorce with your children – Lisa Gabardi, Ph.D.
How to wisely use a divorce lawyer
Family Law Glossary
Child Support Calculator
Parenting Plan Information
DHS Domestic Violence Services and Information
Oregon Judicial Department Domestic Violence Resources
Domestic Violence Resources
Family Court Services-Multnomah County
Oregon Judicial Department Family Law Program
Parent Education Program Registration—Clackamas County
Parent Education Program Registration—Multnomah County
Kids’ Turn Family Law Education Program—Washington County
Service of Family Law Documents Information
Up to Parents – A free, confidential, and interactive website for divorcing and divorced parents

Suggested Reading:
Books for Parents

Between Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce by Lois Gold, (New York: Plenum, 1992).

Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and its Aftermath
by Vicki Lansky, (Deephaven, MN: The Book Peddlers, 1996).

The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart by C. Ahrons, (New York: Harper Collins, 1994).

Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Shared Custody Work by Isolina Ricci (New York: Macmillan, 1980).

The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce by Elizabeth Thayer and Jeffrey Zimmerman (California: New Harbinger, 2001).

Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex, A Hands-On, Practical Guide to Coping with Custody Issues that Arise with an Uncooperative Ex-Spouse by Julie A. Ross and Judy Corcoran (New York: Macmillan, 1996).

Surviving the Breakup: How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce by Judith S. Wallerstein and Joan B. Kelly (New York: Basic Books, 1996).

What About the Kids: Raising Your Kids Before, During and After Divorce by Judith Wallerstein (New York: Hyperion, 2003).

The Truth about Children and Divorce by Robert Emery, Ph.D.

The Quick Guide to Co-Parenting After Divorce: Three Steps to Your Children’s Healthy AdjustmentI by Lisa Gabardi, Ph.D.

Keeping Kids Out of the Middle: Child-Centered Parenting in the Midst of Conflict, Separation, and Divorce by Benjamin Garber, Ph.D.

The Co-Parents’ Handbook; Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient, and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family from Little Ones to Young Adults by Karen Bonnell and Kristin Little.

Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children’s Needs by Philip Michael Stahl.

Communication Titles
 Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. and Deepak Chopra.

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen.

The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner.

Books for Children
Dinosaurs Divorce
by Laurene Krasy Brown and Marc Brown, (Boston: Little Brown and Company, 1988).

The Boys and Girls Book About Divorce by Richard A. Gardner, (New York: Bantam Books, 1970).

What’s Going to Happen to Me: When Parents Separate or Divorce by Eda Lashan, (New York: Four Winds Press, 1978).

Let’s Talk About it: Divorce by Fred Rogers, (New York: G.P. Putnam’s Sons, 1996).

How it Feels When Parents Divorce by Jill Krementz, (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, Inc., 1984).

Divorce Lawyers: Facebook tops in online evidence by Leanne Italie, Associated Press, June 28th, 2010.
Man Charged in Reading Cheating Wife’s Email CBS News, December 27, 2010.